PERSISTENCE ALWAYS PAYS OFF
Attaining a goal is not always easy and at the same time it is not always hard. There are times when you are on the verge of giving up and when you do give up, you will find out that you’re only one inch closer to the goal. Never give up because there’s always a way to reach your goal.
If the path you had chosen did not work out get a reality check, have some self-awareness; know your motivations, and your intentions for achieving this goal. You might be approaching this opportunity the wrong way or trying to achieve this goal for the wrong reasons.
I will admit that I used to question if persistence really pays off because according to my friends, it is my most endearing qualities. I am the friend who always gives advice not to give up and to push forward as always. For I always believe that if you give your every thing to achieve your goal, you will achieve it.
Based from experience, I realized that persistence really pays off. I’ve gained and accomplished things I worked hard for years. Some goals will come to you for a long time to the point that you will think it will never come true but what’s really true is that you will never know how close you are to that goal until you finish that struggle. In the end it will be all worth it.
You must be wondering how did I do it? So let me share things you need to know and understand to attain your goal.
First thing you have to know. To obtain something of great value, something of equal importance must be lost. Because when you do reach that goal, everything is worth it and the happiness outweighs the bad. The things you must lose here is not your sense of self, your free will, and your happiness. You need to lose the fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, and don’t try to figure out how to get there. Make the decision to pursue it, and take the second step which is the action.
The kind of goal you are achieving should not change you and make you someone else, to the point that you will not recognize yourself anymore. The climb on the mountain or the struggle to reach your goal is painful and hard but it should not crush you and disappoint you, to the point that it would make you dysfunctional and unrecognizable to your loved ones.
Second thing you need to know is sometimes the path to your goal is not clear. One of the secrets in taking control of your life and do what you love to do is to learn to you control the power of your subconscious mind. According to research, when you want something, tell your brain what you want, your conscious mind will lock your focus to the goal through RAS (Reticular activating system) and your unconscious mind will unlock the path towards your goal. You will get your answer of how to get there. Your RAS helps in filtering information of your brain and affects what you focus your attention to. It is also responsible for the brain and body movements. RAS is the key to a coherent mind. Remember: Your RAS will work for you objectively but emotions can bog it or overwhelm it. So remain objective.
Third thing you need to know is show up everyday and do something about it, show your emotions and intent to make sure that you are not the only one who’s going to benefit but also the people will benefit from you. You will never know where a business partner or a boss will give you a break when he sees that you really interested and passionate about your goal.
Fourth thing is when you feel like you’ve hit the plateau, you’re doing something everyday but nothing seems to be moving forward. You are wrong. You won’t be able to see the changes or the improvement because you are looking introspectively. You need to see things from the outside. And it is the time to push harder. Sometimes the plateau is one of the tests that will try you critically and emotionally but if you hold on to your goals, you will pass the test with flying colours.
An example is, I have big expectations for the choir, we’ve been training for two months and we’re having problems with our choir moderator. She’s too busy to fit us in her schedule but we’ve all compromise. I’m thinking that I’m wasting my time on the choir because we are all in a stand still and that we are not improving. The choir is not meeting my expectations. Last not, I realized that I was wrong. After singing for the mass, someone approached us and praised us profusely how we sound good, that she likes our voice control, and we inspired her as we sung in acapella. She asked us if she could still join in the choir. I really hope that our choir ministry will let her join us, because we need more members, particularly an Alto for the choir.
Firth thing you need to learn is remain focus on your goal and don’t let obstacles and negative emotions to get to you or hinder you from moving forward. Obstacles make you stronger and emotions are like distractions or a reality check if you still want the same goal. If you have the same goal, move forward, if you think your goals have changed, it’s time to find a different goal. It’s important to keep a positive attitude and keep positive people around you.
Sixth thing you need to know is you are not alone. In the fight to reach our goal, we may have different goals but there are other people who are just like you. We all feel the same: the hardship, the sacrifice, the pain, and the urge to give up.
Seventh thing is you need to show your intent and the benefits you and the others will get from your goal. A boss or a business partner usually keeps rejecting you or your goal when they don’t see that they will benefit from it. You need to load your big guns and shoot the targets directly and aimlessly as much as you can. You need to make them see the appeal and the demand of what you have and the others doesn’t.
Eighth thing you need to learn is you only fail when you give up. Have you heard of the quote that every success story has a give up chapter? It’s a good thing; Einstein did not give up on his theory of gravity-the general theory of relativity because in 2011 a group of scientists has just proven it.
Another Einstein’s success is the research that just came out this year of May, where researchers used a new method using Einstein’s theory of Relativity.
And now, another researcher name David Weinstein is just improving Einstein’s Radical theory. His appeal just came out this year in the month of June. They are considering of calling him the next Einstein.
Ninth thing you need to know is program your mind in the morning. Meditate, close your eyes, clear your mind, and listen to your breathing for a few minutes without any worry or thought. Tell yourself what your long term and short goals are. Tell yourself and believe that you are going to accomplish your short term goal and a short term goal towards your long term goal. You might have tons of short term goals for the day, but always show up or do something or a small thing towards your goal.
Tenth thing you need to know is have a coherent heart. From my last post, I mentioned this but I didn’t explain to achieve it. I found heard about the coherent heart last year from the Institute of HeartMath page. According to their research, one of their practices is the Coherence technique.
The coherence technique brings your heart and your brain into a more aligned state and physiological level. It opens up the brain to experience the positive emotional state that we want more in our life. Research shows that if we shift into a coherent state, the heart and the brain operate synergistic-ally, like two systems mesh into one. It can learn to activate the sustained synergy between the heart and the brain and prevent stress-producing patterns along with increasing our mental clarity and discerning capacity.
Let me explain that what’s cited above is just a suggestion; the best thing to do is apply what’s suitable for your need. You can come up with own things to help you attain your goal. Do what will work best for you.