Being a water-bearer, I never figure out why words and ideas easily come to me every time I touch water until now. According to my sign, air sign, Aquarius, ruled by Saturn and Uranus, is called a water-bearer because they are good with communications. They’re ability to communications flows like water in the river.
From experience, when I wash dishes, or while I’m in the shower, ideas would flow in my mind like water. So after finishing my chores or practising good hygiene, I will pick up a pen and notebook or sit in front of my laptop and start writing. When I write I first decide what kind of personality I want my characters to have, then decide what their zodiac signs is, and then add mannerisms, interests, contradictions and experiences that will make them unpredictable and interesting.
I always love to learn how to read people like a book. According to my temperament, based on Personality Plus by Florence Littauer and Kiersey Temperament sorter by David Kiersey, being a Melancholy and a Healer (INFJ or ENFJ results), we have strong empathic abilities and well developed to intuition to be adept in sensing and reading people’s personality, and be aware of their emotions and intents even before they existed in the person. I didn’t know about that until I took those tests in 2009 but when I was young, I just always love the idea of being able to read minds.
I started observing and reading about personalities, and personality theories, taking different kinds of personality tests, read astrology profiles then get familiar with them and apply it to people I know since high school until now. I usually show my best friend about my discoveries and ask her to answer those tests as well. It helps to have another insight that is different from mine because she sees and notice things and vice versa. As long as it’s about people’s behaviour I always learn and apply it to people I know. I teach her about everything I know and vice versa.
Ever since then, it’s easy much easier for me to understand other people’s actions when they disappoint me, hurt me or anger me because I can easily put my self into their shoes, and I get a sense of their personality.
Years ago, I’ve always thought you need years to know a person, but now not any more. People do that to make sure they won’t get hurt and to make sure they will keep people in their life that will be a good influence to them and someone who will ground them. I’m not saying that you should just jump into a relationship without trying to get to know them, what I’m saying is you don’t need to spend five to ten years to get to know someone.
From my experience, according to my best friend, I’ve always been mysterious, aloof, detach and I pushed everyone away but she and my other best friend are persistent. They we’re the ones who got through my wall, and somehow brought out the real me. I’ve realized that no matter how long you know the person, they can still surprise you.
Now, I spend or talk to a person in one day, observe their speech, the kinds of clothes they wear, observe the people they make friends with, the kind of person they get involve with, the kind of job they do, the kind of workout they do, the kind of songs they listen to, do they play instruments or not, the kind of sport they do and if they love animals or not. I get a sense of their personality right away and the kind of person they are. I find out soon enough if this person is being real with me or if he’s showing me a front.
It’s always effective to talk in person as always but talking to people in the internet, or tweeting with them works too because a person can’t always put a front online, usually they are more expressive and they don’t filter their words. If they lie online, I’ll know too because their actions, don’t much their words.
I’m not always right, my judgments are just almost always right and I’ve learned to filter the people in my life who are going to be a good influence to me rather a distraction or a hindrance to my dreams and my future. I know who to trust and not to trust, and I know when to listen to their advice and when to not. I firmly believe that I’m good in making friends online because I always find gems that changes my life for the better and makes me become a better person.
Just like the line from the Sandra Bullock’s movie, “While You Were Sleeping”, you don’t need years to get know a person, sometimes all you need is a day. Okay I’m a paraphrasing, I don’t remember the exact words but I know the message. I used to believe the opposite, but now not any more.
As an Aquarius, they call us the water-bearer because our ability to communicate is like flowing water in the river. People say I always have a knack for reading people and giving insights and advises.
My friends from the Nursing Board Review, used to tease me and call me Al Gora, the female version of Al Gore because what always come out of my mouth is an inconvenient truth, a universal truth or something enlightening. According to my friends, they always learn things from me and their lives get better.
I’m not going to boast and say that’s true. What I believe is that every person I meet will teach me something and vice versa and we change each other lives for the better.
One of my best relationships is with my best friend, she’s a Sagittarius. It is understandable because they are smart people, philosophers, embraces changing for the better, and lover of freedom, independence and individuality. Something an Aquarius shares with them, other qualities of an Aquarius that he shares with Sagittarius are adventures, exploring new things, and getting new experiences. She brought out the best in me just like I brought out the best in her and also because our signs are in conjunction as the stars have said.
The palm reader we went before told us that us being best of friends, is meant to be because we have a lot to learn from each other. We are compatible in every way and we fuel each other with support, optimism, sensibility, honesty, loyalty, intimacy, and responsibility. We would always joke if I’m a guy, she’d totally marry me, just like I’d marry her, if she’s a guy. We have differences of course, we have different principles and beliefs sometimes and personality profile , but we could have the same zodiac signs because of some same ideals, we balance each other just fine. We have the best experiences and done crazy things together.
People I’m usually drawn too, they always either have my best friend’s zodiac sign or her temperament but I have to admit I’ve notice that I have lots of Sagittarius friends, men and women but it doesn’t mean I don’t have other friends with other signs of course.
Another discovery I made is aside from Sagittarius, I also make good friends with some Capricorn, Virgo, Libra, Aries, Taurus, Pisces, and Scorpio. I just get along most with Sagittarius, then Capricorn, and then Virgo.
That’s how I find people to keep in my life permanently. How about you? How do you filter people in your life?