Letting Go For Good

Letting go is one of the hardest and the most liberating thing a person can do.

You let go of the impossible goals you’ve set on for.

You let go of the feelings towards people who puts you in a bad situation.

And become fully self-actualized in a moment when you gained something from losing something really important.

Yesterday, I was at the church, and the priest talked about letting go. He explained that letting go will lead you to greatest happiness you never thought you’ll ever have, bring into a state of balance and stability and learned and understand at one point that everything happens for a reason, and what’s meant to be will happen as long as you trust and believe.

It was such good timing because I’m on a verge of letting go or I’ve been slowly letting go of the fantasy I think will become a reality years from now. That’s not to say, I’m not going to have the last effort to make this fantasy come true. Well, it won’t really come true, days had passed, and I realized that my interest on it is decreasing day by day. Maybe because I’m finally getting out for good from my bubble I constructed to protect myself and my future or maybe because I’m starting to see things I haven’t been seeing before. Making the last effort for it is to prove to myself that what I learned about it is not really meant to be.

Another thing that letting go creates in your life, it gives you something important to you too.

I gained something, not just one but a lot of more. And I am more than grateful because it never occurred to me that it would happen.

I gained the opportunity to do what I love, writing. I got another chance to pursue my other passion, singing, and my passion for the piano that I’ve lost maybe eleven or twelve years ago is back. Getting them back in my life made me the happiest person because I gave them up years ago.

God has been really good to me this year, not that he hasn’t been good in the previous years. I have to admit I’ve lost my way and became distrustful compared to how I was before in high school.

This year, what happened to me, made me somehow self-actualized. Letting go led me to my peak experience I’ve become much more happier, accepting, appreciative, grateful, considerate, positive, beautiful inside and out, confident about myself, active than I was before, more open-minded, it has given me more perspectives, made me think out of the box more often and see things differently.

You should try it too! It’s not easy, it’s hard, and very painful but it’s worth it. I assure you that.

Trust my word when I say that if it’s meant to be, it will happen and if it’s not something better will be given to you.

Being a Mentor

Mentor is a word; I will never describe myself due to the linked responsibilities and accountability it holds. Whether I like it or not, a couple of my friends calls me that, they also call me a Guro regarding, Life, Relationship, and Sex.

It all started out when I decided to answer questions in Yahoo Answers. At first, it was just about getting points, and then it developed to wanting to help more people and wanting to share what I know to other people. It didn’t matter to me if I get points or not, all I cared about is trying to answer their questions with everything I know. It wasn’t easy. Sometimes other people won’t choose your answer and sometimes, there are answers that are much better than yours.

I’ve met a lot of people online from Yahoo Answers; they come and go but the ones I never forget are the ones who chose my answer as the best answer to their question. One day, I encountered a person questioning his behavior around the people he knows. He wants to become a better person and make friends. I can’t remember much the specifics of his question, but just like what I did with the other questions, I answered it the best I could.

He chose my answer as the best answer and asked me if I could answer his other question about his relationship with his girlfriend. I also answered it and again he also chose it as the best answer.

I’m so happy that I helped him, and next think I know he added me to his email and we became friends. We still talk to each other until now. We’ve both been a great help with each other because we both provide different perspectives to our own problems. He’s like my little brother. We’re even friends in Facebook, and he’s the one who calls me his mentor. We check up on each other until now and I still give him advises from time to time when asks me.

As for my other close friends, they asked me advises about their relationships, friendships, career and their sex lives. It’s such a great feeling when I’m able to help them or when I imparted something I know that they don’t. It’s the best and most rewarding feeling.

Honestly it’s been a long time since I’ve done it but I do miss the feeling of giving solutions to familiar situations or experiences that I’ve gone through or the people I know have gone through.

How about you? Would you try mentoring as well? Share your thoughts or suggestions.

Ways that make me extremely Happy! Know Yours too!

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For those who’s going to read this today, I have an assignment for yourself and that is to conjure things in your life that will make you happy everyday that nothing and nobody can put you down.

When I say conjure I’m referring to anything true and real for you. It could be a person, a memory, a proof, a sign, a habit, a hobby, a thought, your religion and write it in a piece of paper or save it in your phone where you can see it everyday to remind you.

You’re not obligated to do this, but I did this, and it’s working really good for me, you should try it too.

According to this article, The Habits of Supremely Happy People, Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, theorizes that while 60 percent of happiness is determined by our genetics and environment, the remaining 40 percent is up to us.

As I am just recovering from the most painful heartbreak I’ve ever felt before, I actually promised myself last year that at the start of this year, I’m going to move, be strong, and be happy.

I am going to admit that I’ve come a long way because God gave back some things in my life that I’ve given up years ago, some of the reasons that makes me happy.

So to not make this post longer and boring for everyone, I am going to list things below the things that make me so happy everyday and really confident about myself, my life, and my future.

Of course there are days that bad or negative things will get to you but because of these things, I can bounce back easily from sad and depress for a while to being happy and confident again that everything will be fine.

GOD: Since I was a little girl I’ve always believe in God and I always believe that you can have anything as long as you put your everything, and your heart into getting them. I’ve been through a lot and now, I realized that God will give you the best things in life and what you want and need at the right place and time including the challenges and trials you encounter in life. For always, everything happens for a reason.

FAMILY & FRIENDS: Just like everyone, we all get tired sometimes of our family’s way of treating us while raising us and some of our friends negative attitudes that hurt us, but in the end, I wouldn’t want them to disappear from my life. My family and friends have things in common, their personality, it’s stronger than mine, and it shaped me to this very hard and beautiful diamond to be able to get through the naysayers and negative people who tries to let me down.

VERY FEW GUYS: You made stronger. You made me learn things about myself and know the kind of guy I should settle down with and you also made me grow up, mature, strive harder, and become the best person that I can be.

PROOF: I don’t know how to explain this but let me summarize and make simple for everyone. I was planning on putting KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE here because that’s what they are. The knowledge and experienced I’ve gathered in my everyday life gave me an unbreakable proof, signs, confirmation and blessings from God, researched and scientific based proof that eventually I’m going to receive the most important thing that I want and need out of this life, so even if it’s not yet here, Thank you because it feels like it’s already here. I know its close. I know its coming. So I thank God so much for this blessing especially. Everything that happened has come to this.

WRITING: You are my therapy, my expression, the path who led me to one of the best things that ever happened to me, meeting that one person who will open your eyes and change your life always for the better.

SINGING: Words are not enough to describe just how much singing makes me happy. All I know is every time I am singing, I feel so high, floating in the sky and I forget all my problems, gives me perspectives and even resolution.

PIANO: I’m forever grateful that I was given an opportunity to learn the piano, even though I didn’t appreciate you before as much as I did now. I’m glad I made the decision not to let go of my skill all these years. I can still play and when I play, it makes my heart burst with happiness and I’m also able to touch someone else’s heart as well.

DANCING: It started with Ballet when I was a little girl. I regretted giving it up because if I didn’t I could have danced my way to dancing schools and get scholarships according to my teacher. At least when I got into high school, I’m able to learn other kinds of dance: hip hop, and ballroom. And now, I’m still doing it as a workout: Zumba, and Barre.

This is me celebrating life. 😄

Read the full article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/16/happiness-habits-of-exuberant-human-beings_n_3909772.html

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Motivation Drives US

Writing my first draft has been a slow process to me but it’s going.

So today I ask myself, what should I do to bring back the confidence I have in writing from the start this first in a different format.

Writing this before as a novel is actually an exciting, moving process for me. I don’t have a writer’s block, I’m just not feeling inspired. I’m not depress, I just feel sad. Anyway enough making excuses, it’s time to motivate myself.

Before I decided  to move on from this guy, I’m so confident that we’re meant to be because all the signs point to him, all evidence, science, logic, and even God’s signs. I am now moving on, I feel great about myself. I don’t think less of myself because I know my personality, my sign, my strengths and my weaknesses. Now that I have moved on at one point, I will admit that all those signs still points to him. So why am I not confident anymore?

It’s easy, because I’ve let the past get to me. I need to learn to ignore it and focus myself on the positive things and those positive signs. Yes, I’m moving on and at one point had moved on, but those signs gives me security, assurance, and confidence for the future that God has plans for me or is holding something for me at the end of the line.

I feel fired up and excited because those signs serves as evidence to me. They are studied, recorded, categorized, and even other people served as witnesses of those signs being true. Those people are my allies and boost to my confidence.

So by the end of the day, I’m expecting to finish at least 7 pages of my draft, and then I’m 110 pages to go. I am again excited, confident, proud, and happy about myself.

I just want to say now that I can’t wait to meet my Robin Hood. I know Marian is a strong character but I believe that in the first few stories, she’s actually portrayed as a damsel in distress that needs saving all the time.

I’m strong, I always believed that I don’t need saving because I can take care of myself just fine. In fact I save people all the time from themselves, and their problems and I’m not a damsel in distress but it would be nice to be saved once in a while.

Wish me luck! If you have problems, ask me and I’ll do my best to help and support.

There is nothin…

There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.
– Ernest Hemingway

One of the tips I’ve got from writing years ago is that don’t wait for the inspiration to come to write.

Instead learn to court your muse. Push yourself to write anytime and anywhere, and in the end you will be able to train your mind to create ideas anytime and anywhere.

Months ago, there was a day where I planned to write a chapter for the novel I was working on, it was a very happy chapter, well it wasn’t a happy ending chapter but the chapter is more like a revelation. I made that planned the night before.

The next day, it turned out to be one of those days where everything gets to you, where you get reminded of everything painful, so during that day, I felt so brokenhearted.

What I did, is pushed myself to write that chapter. I made it but it was very painful. I was crying even while I was writing that happy chapter. I was proud of myself that day. It also made me realize that it is possible and that when you use your emotions or something painful and convert it to writing, it brings out good results.

In the past, when I get angry, all I do is write to my friend, and then the anger disappears or if not, I just write. Writing is a therapy to me.

Now, my other trial in writing is my first draft which I mentioned from my previous post, I’ve been writing it for months but I’m adapting it to another format. I have the characters, the outline, and the story. I realized that it’s the kind of writing I’m really passionate about since I read a lot of stories in that format since in grade school. I’m also incorporating some changes on the story. It reminds me of something very personal and painful. After all some of the things we write come from our experiences. It’s different from my experience but some how has similarities too.

Now I fully understand what Mr. Ernest Hemingway means.